What constitutes an healthy relationship

I once heard a lady say a relationship is the unanimity of two powerful words; relation which means “the relevant connection between two or more people” and ship which denotes “a means of transportation”.

I had this shared with some ladies who effortlessly agreed with the sweet definition which I was wondering what could be the story behind that definition, so I asked them “why do you concur with this definition of relationship rather than the universal agreed or accepted definition?” Without wasting any second they replied in echoes but I had to politely shut them up and select one of them to talk (like they say “barbarians talk in thousands”).

Ganiyat by name, an indigene of Kwara state who is a student in Lagos State Polytechnic replied saying:

“Any relevant connection which is bonded by emotions and trust which is not moving you places or not looking like it took a step nor doesn’t change anything, is not a relationship, because a relationship is a connection of relevant feeling from two persons who are emotionally attached and has progressed or progressing them from a stage to another”.

In awe my jaw dropped, I was lost and couldn’t figure out where the movement is or was to take place so I asked her again “how is your relationship with a person connected with movement?”, She laughed and said in a sweet calm tone “My dear, it’s connected. If I am dating you, you have to offer me value and I will in return offer you value too then we compliment each other’s weaknesses and we both grow while doing all the dirty plays and stuff but if you only offer me money and lovemaking or money and intimacy, baba! I will leave if after three months you don’t read in between the lines that this girl needs a relationship, not a jokingship”. Then I understood her and I smiled in amusement.

But what’s your definition of a relationship? Tell that to me in the comment section. While away from school activity last month, I ran into an old friend, we joyously hugged and talked for a little time.

Suddenly I remembered she was in a relationship with a guy then and they happened to be the talk of the town, so I asked her “what of Nelson?” She murmured and said “Wo!.. he’s fine” from that reply I know you could also tell all wasn’t good, I questioned her reply and why she did reply like that, then she said, “the relationship wasn’t healthy so we had to go our separate ways”. After she had gone, I pondered on her reply (“the relationship wasn’t healthy”) and I kept wondering what a healthy relationship was or should be like and what constitutes a healthy relationship.

So I decided to go all out, as usual, to get answers from the relationship savvies and the ones who hadn’t experienced anything with the description of “a sweet relationship”. You will be amazed at what I gathered from all my research. Hold on a minute, have you ever wondered what a healthy relationship looks like too also? Then I guess we are both or we’ve both gotten a solution to that big question.

Joseph is a guru and a relationship adviser, he came just when I needed someone like him to help me unravel the mystery of what a healthy relationship should have and what makes it up. He came to check someone out in our campus so I stopped him and asked a few questions; ‘Joseph what is a healthy relationship?” Swiftly he threw an answer back at me “a healthy relationship is one in which both partners supports each without interfering in each other’s private life while maintaining good communication and boundaries, so they both feel independent. That’s a healthy relationship”.

I know the ladies will concur with this because every lady who heard him say this yelled at us saying “Una hear!!…” As if we weren’t giving them maximum privacy before but my question is for the gentlemen, do you guys accept and agree with that definition up there?.

But really, what makes up a healthy relationship? We should know this relationship ingredients that make our relationship healthy and prosperous. “Prosperity will stem in once it’s healthy, it will be healthy once it has value and it will have value if the reason for establishing it wasn’t self-centered”. I love to hear things like “like play like play, they are finally getting married ooo” but it’s only a healthy relationship that grows to that stage in life.